The Psychowitch Corner

1. Letting go of a person you’ve just learned to love

2. Reminiscing the good times you shared together

3. Shielding your heart to love somebody

4. Trying to hide what you really feel

5. Trying to hide the tears that involuntarily fall
from your eyes

6. Loving a person too much

7. Giving up someone you never thought of giving
up

8. Having the right love at the wrong time

9. Taking the risk to fall in love again

10. Hiding your relationship from someone else

11. Controlling your feelings to avoid hurting a
friend

12. Thinking of him/her every waking and sleeping
moment knowing all the while that he/she never
even thinks a single thought of you…

13. Letting go, because everytime you see the
person, you only fall deeper

14. Holding back only to find out when it’s too late,
you both felt the same way, but were only
scared to lose each other so much that you didn’t
let the feelings out

15. Falling in love with someone you didn’t mean
to fall in love with

16. Finding the perfect guy/girl…with only one
problem— he/she doesn’t love you…the way you
want him/her to…

17. Helping the one you love "court" your friend /
helping your friend "court" the one you love

18. Seeing the one you love crying for someone
else

19. Waiting also hurts like hell

20. Having to hear "… I’ve met someone"

21. Agreeing to his/her wish to ‘just be friends’.

22. Asking his/her freedom back bcoz ‘he’d/she’d
be happier with him/her’

23. Asking you to ‘forget that everything happened’
and be ‘normal’ friends again.

24. Hearing that you’re treated as a little bro/sis
(ouch!)

25. Sharing his/her future plans for the guy/girl
with you.

26. You stopped being friends bcoz his gf/her bf
asked him/her to.

27. Being denied in front of people.

28. Telling you lies where he’d/she’d been when
actually, he/she was with a ‘new friend’ or an
‘old flame’ (whew!)

29. He/she told you he’d/she’d be leaving you to
return to his/her ex? the one he/she left for
you!

30. Breaking someone’s heart

31 .Fighting for that one thing that would make
you happy that is, holding on to a person who can
not guarantee you his/her commitment unless
he/she fix himself/herself…then, you are left
hanging for the moment…then he/she says, time
will tell… ang labo lang niya…but you still decided
to hope in him/her and trust him/her

32. Pretending you’re OK when inside you’re
dying…

33. Pretending to be strong…. and recognizing
your weakness

34. Lying in bed each night, thinking of that special
person you can never have…

35. Being with someone you can’t actually love…

36. Pretending you don’t love a person whom you
actually love…

37. Being in love…

38. Letting go even if you really don’t want to…
having no right to say you are hurting because it
was your decision

39. Seeing the person you love hurt because of
you… and not being able to help that person…

40. Having the courage to say "I LOVE YOU" to the
person you love and finding out afterwards that
things will never be the same again when he/she
doesn’t treat you with the same closeness as before

41. Having to face the fact that someone is
capable of completely destroying the wall that you
have set for yourself, leaving you weak and
vulnerable

42. Admitting that you love someone despite
his/her imperfections

43. Finding out that the more you try to hate
him/her, the more you end up loving him/her,
perhaps even more than before

44. Realizing how stupid your mistakes were that
led to your break-up.

45. The thought that this guy/girl, used to really
love you and you loved him/her as well but you
didn’t give enough and he/she gave up on you

46. Sharing the one you love with SOMEBODY
else….."

47. Making a promise….and realizing that when
the time has come for that promise to be
delivered….the commitment is no longer there…

48. Violating your parents’ rules for that someone
that you love.

49. Leaving your long-time friends because the
one you love cannot accept them.

50. The hardest thing about love - believing it

Yes i’m the goddess of edits na mga pics… haha! it’s so cool na na-aaddict na ako magedit lagi… hay…. nakakatuwa. grabe sobrang camera shy na ko. hehe… just kidding… i just like taking our pictures para pag namatay ako, maraming pagpipilian ang family ng  pic na lalagay nila sa kabaong ko.. hehe… totoo naman eh… u can’t say kung kelan kasi kaw mawawala sa mundong ibabaw kaya nga I try to show my love to my family, friends and most specially to my baby… yuck! ang drama… nyt!

There was a rich merchant who had 4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the
most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He
took great care of her and gave her nothing but the best.

He
also loved the 3rd wife very much. He’s very proud of her and always
wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always
in great fear that she might run away with some other men.

He
too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always
patient and in fact is the merchant’s confidante. Whenever the merchant
faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she would
always help him out and tide him through difficult times.

Now,
the merchant’s 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great
contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking
care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the first
wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.

One
day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to
die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, "Now I
have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I’ll be alone. How lonely I’ll
be!"

Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I loved you most, endowed you
with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I’m
dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!" replied the
4th wife and she walked away without another word.

The answer
cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant’s heart. The sad
merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you so much for all my
life. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"
"No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is so good over here! I’m going to
remarry when you die!" The merchant’s heart sank and turned cold.

He
then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help and you’ve
always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you
follow me and keep me company?" "I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this
time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to
your grave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the merchant
was devastated.

Then a voice called out : "I’ll leave with you.
I’ll follow you no matter where you go." The merchant looked up and
there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered
from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the merchant said, "I should have
taken much better care of you while I could have !"

Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives

a. The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it’ll leave us when we die.

b. Our 3rd wife ? Our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others.

c.
The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had
been there for us when we’re alive, the furthest they can stay by us is
up to the grave.

d. The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of material, wealth and sensual pleasure.

She is a 24-year old copywriter. He is an architect.
They met and became lovers in college. They broke up last year but
remained to be "friends."

They send sweet text messages and he calls her often to make sure 
she’s okay. They still date. They still have s*x.

They don’t see anyone else. It is obvious that they still love each 
other but when asked about their situation, she doesn’t
know the real score. Even

her friends are in the dark. "Parang sila, pero hindi."

She works in a telecom. He is reviewing for the board. They are in
the same barkada. They talk on the phone till 4 am. He gives
her chocolates, flowers and CDs even when there is no occasion. Their
friends are suspecting something. Bakit sila nagsosolo kapag may
overnight inuman? Why does he hold her close on the dance floor? Bakit sila
magkaholding hands lagi?

Sila kaya?

"He hasn’t admitted anything," she rants. "But I let him hug and kiss me.

Parang kami, pero hindi."

They work together in an ad agency. After office, they would watch
movie, have dinner and stroll at Glorietta. She gave him Harry Potter books
for his birthday in exchange for posing as her boyfriend to make an ex
jealous. They made out during the company outing in Subic and
never talked about it. He said "I love you" once but she wasn’t sure if she
heard him correctly because they were both drunk then. But one thing
she is sure of is her feelings for him. She likes him. And she’s
assuming that with what he’s doing to her and with her, he likes her, too. There’s just one hitch: he has a girlfriend!

She is a 28-year-old virgin. He’s a 35-year-old bachelor. Both mountaineers,
they became close during their climbs. After a few dates in posh
restaurants, he brings her to his condo where they would make out.

They have been doing this for months. She wants to believe
that "sila na" but then she’s not really sure about it. "We don’t talk about
it but it doesn’t really matter," she’d tell her friends. "What’s
important is I am enjoying this — whatever it is."

The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual
understanding. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo- boyfriends.

Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase
where the persons involved are more than friends, but not
quite lovers.

Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of
you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your
gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi
kayo mag-dyowa.

Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.

This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for
different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still
love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a
reason. A nd for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna
magkabalikan.

It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong
nakik*ramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso
kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.

Testing lang.

Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo –usually
the guy –may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya
nakik*pag-break doon sa girl (sabi niya makik*pag-break siya soon pero di
naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya
nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."

This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung
naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro."

Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala
talagang kasiguraduhan.

So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi
naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?

Iba’t ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang.

Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa w ala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom."

Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa
kunwa-kunwarian.

For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think
that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship
at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling.

Aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationships
din ako. No commitments involved. For the simplest reason
that they couldn’t commit, because they were either committed to someone
else, or that they weren’t ready to commit.

My rationalization, "okay na iyun, kesa wala."

Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong kung
kumusta araw ko. Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. Iyong kapag
tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam
kong galing sa kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang
wala pa ang the real thing, puwede na itong pagtiyagaan.

But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the
emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae
lagi ang lugi.

Una, you can’t ask him to commit. Since it’s not really a relationship, you
can’t demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga
ba magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your
role in his life. You can’t expect him to be always there with you. And if
you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself.

Ano ka ba niya para magselos?

Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him?
You can’t be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang
na mahal ka rin niya.

Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can’t.
Because you’re not sure if he’ll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang.

This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship.

Or if there is a relationship at all. 

Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much?

What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn’t?

What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys,
only to find out that he is seeing other girls?

Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a
disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would
be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo
alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang
pinanghahawakan.

Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me,"
hindi "us."

Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi
eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo- relationship, hindi mo
maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And
you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only
to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with
somebody else.

Ang h irap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then
you’d end up hurting yourself in the process.

Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh.
Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences.

But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the
process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live
the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.

When I was younger and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable
guy, a friend told me, "Sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka.

Magpakasaya ka.

Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita."

Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo.

Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero
hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang
doon lang siya …

almost, but not quite.
_______________________________________ ____________

so why nga b tau pmpsok sa mga gantong klaseng relasyon…

care to share your ideas?

AnG PaGmaMahaL duMadaTinG
sa TaManG
oRas At TamaNg paGkaKataOn. .
MinsaN SiniSiSi Pa NatiN anG saRiLi NaTin KuNg BaKiT
NgaYon Mo LaNg NaLamaNg
MahaL Mo Sya..
KunG aLam Mo LaNg…
NgaYon Mo LanG Yon NaLaMan Kasi EtO
YunG TiNataWag Na "TAMANG PANAHON"..

So We ThiNk Of LoVe As a PasT TimE..
FLinG At
TrIp LaNg..YunG MaHaL Nya NgayOn..
BuKas HiNdi Na…
BoYfriENd Nya NgaYon Pero
TaNggaP Nya Na IsaNg aRaw TaTawaGin
Nya din Yung "EX"..

MataGal Nga,,inaAboT pa Ng taOn pErO
ILaNg taoN??
1? 2? 3? Tapos PaG nagKakaSawaAn na
NagAAyaWaN Na At MaY iBa NamaN Na
NagTataGal LanG ng TaoN daHiL
naNghihiNayaNg sa PinagsamaHan. ..

BaTa Pa MasYado aNg
ganoNg magmahaL…

MaY iBa NaMaN Na MasYadOng SeryoSo At
SenSiTiBo Pag DatIng Sa baGay Na yAn..
YuNg
TipO Ng TaoNg haNdaNg iRisK AnG laHat..
MagBigaY.. MagParaYa.. PaRa LaNg
DoN sa
TaoNg maHaL Nya.. MerOn PaNg Iba DyaN
Na PiniPigiLaN YunG naRaRaMdaMaN
Nya KasI HigH ScHoOL PaLaNg O Di Kaya
TeEnAgER PaLaNg, GuSto Nya KasIng MaGiNg siLa NuNg taOng Yon Sa paNahoNg seryosoHan
Na..YunG SiGuraDo Na Sya Na Yung TaoNg Yon Nga ang GuSto NyanG makaSama PaNghaBanG
BuhaY..KumBaga "TAMANG PANAHON"..

ThErE’s This QuOTaTioN SaYinG:

"i dont care how many lips u’vE kisd….
i dont care how many women u’ve embraced
i dont care how many ladies heard u say u
love dem….ol i care is d future…
not to be u’r FIRST but to be u’r LAST"..

MaSaRap MagmaHaL nG TaOng MahAL ka
Din..YunG feELiNg Nyo SouLmaTe Kayo..

KAYA KUNG PARA SAYO TALAGA
SIYA..ILANG
TAON MAN KAYO DI MAGKITA.. IL ANG TAO
MAN ANG MAHALIN NIYA.. GAANO MAN SIYA
KALAYO O MARAMI MANG HADLANG..
MAGKIKITA PA RIN KAYO KUNG TALAGANG
PARA KAYO SA ISA’T ISA…

pAg-iBiG???. …

HinDi HinahaNap Yan..Kusa yAnG
duMaRaTinG sa "TAMANG PANAHON"..

Did you know that those who appear to be very strong in heart, are real weak and most susceptible?

I love you, Sorry and help me

Did you know that those who dress in red are more confident in themselves?

Did you know that when you help someone, the help is returned in two folds?


Did you know that it’s easier to say what you feel in writing than saying it to someone in the face? But did you know that it has more value when you say it to their face?

Did you know that if you ask for something in faith, your wishes are granted?

Did you know that you can make your dreams come true, like falling in love, becoming rich, staying healthy, if you ask for it by faith, and if you really knew, you’d be surprised by what you could do. 


But don’t believe everything I tell you, until you try it for yourself, if you know someone that is in need of something that I mentioned, and you know that you can help, you’ll see that it will be returned in two-fold.

A man and his dog were walking along a road. The man was enjoying
the scenery, when it suddenly occurred to him that he was dead.

He remembered dying, and that the dog walking beside him had been dead for years. He wondered where the road was leading them. After a while, they came to a high, white stone wall along one side
of the road.

It looked like fine marble. At the top of a long hill it was broken by a tall arch that glowed in the sunlight. When he was standing before it he saw a magnificent gate in the arch that looked like Mother of Pearl, and the street that led to the gate looked like pure gold.

He and the dog walked toward the gate, and as he got closer,
he saw a man at a desk to one side. When he was close enough,
he called out,

The man gestured and the gate began to open.

"Can my friend," gesturing toward his dog, "come in, too?"
the traveler asked.

"Come on in."
         
"How about my friend here?" the traveler gestured to the dog.
    
      "There should be a bowl by the pump."        

        They went through the gate, and sure enough,
there was an old fashioned hand pump with a bowl beside it.
The traveler filled the bowl and took a long drink himself,
then he gave some to the dog. When they were full, he and
the dog walked back toward the man who was standing
by the tree waiting for them.

"No. I can see how you might think so,
but we’re just happy that they screen out the folks
who’ll leave their best friends behind."

Sooooooo … Sometimes, we wonder why friends keep
forwarding jokes to us without writing a word.
Maybe this could explain:
         
When you are very busy, but still want to keep in touch,
guess what you do? You forward jokes.
When you have nothing to say, but still want to keep contact,
you forward jokes.
When you have something to say, but don’t know what,
and don’t know how, you forward jokes.
And to let you know that you are still remembered,
you are still important, you are still loved,
you are still cared for guess what you get?
A forwarded joke.

So my friends, next time if you get a joke,
don’t think that you’ve
been sent just another forwarded joke,
but that you’ve been thought of today and your friend
on the other end of your computer wanted to send you a smile.

I’m happy because I can do whatever I want. Yung walang nagbabantay and walang what ifs… It’s not that I’m not happy with my ex. I’m just glad na for me napatunayan ko naman na mahal ko sya and ginawa ko na yung lahat ng way para maging maayos ang life nya… pero sometimes kelangan mo din maggive up. Hindi kasi nya marealize ang mali nya and sometimes nagiging self-centered na sya. Everytime na gumagawa ako ng way para maging maganda relationship nya with his family, it will end up sa away. He always say na I dont care about him pero kaya ko nga ginagawa yun e para sa kanya. Ang hirap nya umintindi. Minsan nga naiiyak na lang ako tuwing sumbatan nya ko. Those were the days na sobrang stressful ang life ko…

Kaya nga I’m happy to be single na ulit. Wala na ako stressful thoughts di tulad nung kami pa. Namimiss ko rin naman sya and minahal ko rin naman ex ko pero I have enough. And wala pa ulit ako balak magboyfriend ulit. Studies muna… Although I have someone na meron akong special feelings pero I know walang future yung feelings kong yun. Hanggang hoping na lang ako. Hindi ko rin kasi alam what ba talaga feelings nya sakin eh.

Ang hirap talaga mainlove. Ang daming problems sa life. Mastress lang ako. Sana same feelings namin ni special someone… Kung hindi man maging kami now sana in the future…. I really like him. Hope he will realize it. Kasi available naman ako… Happy to be single…

O, bakit ka na naman na-i-istress? Did you wake up on the wrong side of

the bed?

Meron ka bang deadline na i-bi-beat ngayong araw na ito?

It’s important to understand stress before we can effectively manage it

kaya Stress ang pag-uusapan natin ngayon.

Ayon sa mga scientists mayroong dalawang uri ng stress.

Eustress and Distress.

Eustress is positive stress. Ito ang nararamdaman ng isang dalaga

kapag dumarating na ang kanyang manliligaw at may daladalang flowers.

Eustress din ang tawag sa stress na nararanasan ng mga nagwo- work-out

when they are doing their exercises.

Ang mga athletes, pagkatapos na ma-stress ang kanilang muscles,

they rest para ma-repair ang kanilang muscles.

Kapag hindi sila nagpahinga, the stressed muscles will be injured.

When injury happens, yan ang distress.

Distress is the negative side of stress.

Nakakaramdam ka na ng sakit ng ulo, pagsakit ng tiyan,

hindi na makatulog, di pa makakain.

Distress ang uri ng stress na nagreresulta sa kung ano-anong sakit

tulad ng hypertension, minsan nga ay emotional breakdown pa.

Ano ba ang pwede nating gawin para ang stress natin ay hindi maging
distress? Famous author and inspirational speaker,

Dr. John Maxwell has the following suggestions:

Don’t be overly sensitive to criticism.

Tanggapin na natin ang katotohanang hindi natin kayang i-please ang lahat

ng tao.

Talagang mayroong hindi aayon sa iyo kahit na napaka-noble

ng iyong mga intentions and motives.

So when you receive criticisms, take it constructively kung sensible ang

criticism.

If  you think the criticism is not objective, huwag na lang pansinin at ng

hindi ka ma-distress.

Don’t take too much pride in your achievements.

Ang pride ay parang uling, ginagatungan niyan ang distress.

Ang taong proud ay mas lalong nadi-distress dahil masyado niyang
iniingatan

ang kanyang achievement at accomplishment.

Minsan nga our achievements hinder us from growing and learning

kasi sinasabi natin sa ating sarili, aba may na-accomplish na ko.

Mas mahusay ako kaysa sa iba, hindi na nila ko pwedeng turuan.

Ang lungkot ng buhay kapag naging ganyan ang attitude natin.

Don’t harbor jealousy over the achievement of others.

Ang taong mainggitin madalas ding madistress,

kasi nga totoo namang mayroong mas higit kaysa sa atin.

Natural ang iba ay maaaring magkaroon ng achievements na wala tayo di ba.

Instead of being jealous or envious,

let’s learn to rejoice in the successes of others.

Malay mo malibre ka pa bogchi dahil nakikigalak ka sa kanilang tagumpay,
di ba?

Don’t focus on your weaknesses and inadequacies.

Ang sugat kapag mas lalo mong ginalaw mas lalong lalala at baka
maimpeksyon.

The more you focus on your weaknesses and inadequacies

the bigger the tendency of wallowing in self-pity.

While it is important to acknowledge your inadequacies,

it is helpful to  focus on your strengths and capabilities.

One effective way of fighting distress is by counting our blessings -

the good things which life brings.

When we have grateful hearts,

we will always be reminded that we are too blessed to be stressed!

Someone wrote that

“The shortest distance between a problem and a solution is the distance
between your knees and the floor.

The one who kneels to the Lord can stand up to anything.”

I’m so happy na nadagdagan na naman ang APB-APZ family. Para kina Boga, Lawa, Ascaris, Kulot, Bumblebag and Kulasa, I’m very thankful na and happy na mga brods and sis na namin kayo. Lumalaki na family ulit na natin. Buhay na ulit ang APB kaya next year mga girls naman ang mga neophytes…. hehe… natatabunan na kami eh… haha!

Kaya congratulations to our new brods and sis… we love you… APB-APZ in unity!

PROUD TO BE A ZETAN! ONCE A ZETAN FOREVER YOU’RE ONE!!!